Episode 4 Article
04: "Messages" about you is always leaking out
Armatures in psychology think: “If I stay silent, then I am not letting anything out.”
In this world, no matter how we humans keep our mouth shut, “messages” would still inevitably seeps out from everywhere. Of course, we never know we let those messages slip.
This time, Akiyama’s “reading” was perfectly correct again.
Fukunaga planned to seize everything from everyone else, and get the full 2.1 billion yen for himself, but, Akiyama saw through that.
In short, Akiyama, noticed how Fukunaga secretively tried to make 2 other teams.
Akiyama said. “Try to remember what happened yesterday in the game.”
“It was very weird! On the first day, everyone was so nervous, but when the game started, they all looked so calm. It was as if, they were all convinced they were safe already.”
“The most obvious hint came, when the losers had to leave the room.”
“As we all know, losing here earns you a 100 million yen debt. Naturally, it wouldn’t be surprising at all, even if people flip or start to cry. But everybody left the room quietly, without a word of complaint."
So! Akiyama was observing everyone’s actions. This is “man watching”. Certainly, no one would say secrets out loud. However, their actions and behaviors, can also effectively expose their secrets.
In this manner, gestures and means beyond words express information, this is called “non-verbal communication,” or “body language”.
Clothing, accessories, belongings, colors, body stature, hair style, make up, expression, eyes direction, posture, manner, gestures, action, how you distance yourself from others, voice tones… these are all clues, and they all communicate information about you.
Therefore, no matter how you keep a secret quiet, your “body” is still carelessly revealing the secret.
That’s why, experienced police would not overlook the slightest nervousness or suspicious actions. In the same way, in a job interview, by reading that person’s body language, employer can get a feel of that person’s distinctive personality. So, our body, really talks a lot.
Well, that suggests that there are no ways to really prepare for that problem. However, let me provide you with some measures you can take in response.
In short “attack is the best defense”. There’s a limit to how much you can keep others from grasping those [non-verbal] information, keep yourself from sending body languages, or increase your defense. Compare to this, on the other hand, proactively sending out information is more effective.
For example, in an interview, you can make your clothing speaks for you, make your posture speaks for you, let your gestures, your expression speak for you in a positive manner. Use body language to your advantage. Life is a play. And when you
act, you can make fools gold turn into gold.
As Akiyama suggests, “If you really want to fool us, maybe you should have made them act their parts too,” in life truths can be hidden away.
